Benny Rogosnitzky Offers Tips for Traveling with Your Kids after a Divorce

April 12, 2017 no comments Posted in Uncategorized

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Across the country right now, many elementary school and high school students are officially on Spring Break. As a parent who has gone through a divorce, Benny Rogosnitzky knows how difficult it could be to organize a family vacation when you’re a divorced parent. You want to do everything you can to make your child’s trip as enjoyable as possible, but you want to create a little conflict as possible with your divorced spouse too. If you are planning a trip with your kids, here are a few things to keep in mind from Benny Rogosnitzky to ensure the trip is a success.

Keep in Communication with Your Divorced Spouse: This will ensure that everyone is on the same page, and there aren’t any surprises. If you do not communicate well, there are a variety of options, including text and email, so you can keep it cordial if face-to-face’s are not the best idea. When you decide that you want to try out planning a vacation, be sure to let your divorced spouse know as summers can get busy.

Stay Respectful of Each Other’s Time: Notice how we said to inform your ex-spouse as soon as possible about your plans? That’s because your ex might have plans on going on a vacation as well so it’s important to keep that in mind as well. In addition to that, your kids might have their own plans and commitments as well so time can be tight.

Don’t Make the Trip about the Divorce: A vacation is not the time to be selfish. If you have some bad blood or a desire to shout out your issues with the divorce or the relationship, seek help from a professional or even just a friend or family member. Don’t make the trip about you as this will not contribute to anyone having fun

5 Tips for Coping with Divorce

January 26, 2017 no comments Posted in Uncategorized

Going through a divorce can be very difficult and overwhelming, especially for frum divorce families. Marriage is the cornerstone of Jewish life, and when a marriage fails, it can leave people feeling lost and ashamed. While the divorce process is by no means easy, there are a few things you can do to cope and make it through this difficult time.

Don’t ignore your feelings

When going through a divorce, you will likely experience a whirlwind of emotions. You may feel sad, angry, resentful, confused, relieved and scared all at the same time. While it can be painful to feel this way, don’t suppress your emotions. Acknowledge how you are feeling. Confronting your emotions will help you move the grieving process along.

Focus on the future

The end goal of a divorce is building a healthier and happier future for yourself and your family. Rather than dwelling on the past or what you could have done differently, focus on the future. You have a bright future ahead of you, and concentrating on this will help you make positive changes moving forward.

Take care of yourself

Divorce is a stressful and life-changing event. During this difficult time, it can be easy to neglect your health. Be proactive about your health and wellbeing, both physically and emotionally.  Remember to get plenty of rest, eat healthy and minimize other stressors as much as possible.

Explore your interests

Explore hobbies and interests that you may have been unable to pursue in your marriage. Take up painting, playing a musical instrument, or join a sports team and volunteer for a cause you really care about. Engaging in these activities will help you reconnect with yourself, as well as meet new people.

Don’t go through it alone

Don’t be afraid to speak up about your pain and reach out to friends, family and the community for help. Frum Divorce, a community support organization co-founded by Cantor Benny Rogosnitzky, is dedicated to helping frum divorce families cope with divorce and establish a brighter future. Frum Divorce provides support groups, community outreach programs and special events to help frum divorce families move on and overcome the challenges they are facing.

What is the Role of a Cantor? Benny Rogosnitzky Explains

November 28, 2016 no comments Posted in Uncategorized

Do you want to share music with others as a spiritual leader? Do you want to inspire and encourage individuals to become active participants in their Jewish community?  You can share your love of music and commitment to the Jewish community by becoming a Cantor. Distinguished Cantor Benny Rogosnitzky explains the role of a Cantor, their significance in the Jewish faith, and how to become one.

What is a Cantor?

Music greatly enhances the religious experience. Cantors have a variety of responsibilities that vary from synagogue to synagogue. Generally speaking, a Cantor is responsible for the spiritual health and growth of the synagogue’s members.

A Cantor is responsible for preparing and leading worship services, singing, and teaching. If the temple has a choir, the Cantor will lead the choir and supervise rehearsals. The Cantor may teach music in the synagogue’s school, and in the synagogue’s adult education classes. Special attention is given to the Jewish holiday services, in which any musical activity that occurs in the synagogue becomes the Cantor’s responsibility. The Cantor is responsible for preparing children for their Bar or Bat Mitzvahs, in which they teach them how to read from the Torah and how to sing.

Cantors can also perform pastoral duties, such as conducting wedding or funeral services. Additionally, because Cantors are public figures in the community, they serve on community boards and speak at functions.

How to Become a Cantor

First individuals select the branch of Judaism (Reform, Conservative, or Orthodox) since training varies depending upon the branch.

In regards to education, one must receive an undergraduate degree (preferably a BA with a major in music) from an accredited university, as well as completion of a seminary program to receive the necessary education and training. Seminary programs may be four or five years long. Also, seminary schools usually require a completed internship to gain practical experience. A deep musical knowledge, in-depth understanding of the Torah and the ability to speak Hebrew fluently are essential.